Happy People are Socially Active

Ask Patricia explains "clues to Happiness"

Dear Ask Patricia,

I just do not feel happy anymore in my life! Lately I have been feeling very depressed, all I want to do is sleep when I get off of work or watch T.V.? Do you have any suggestions to help me get my life back on track?

Needing help,
 Kelly , CA

Dear Kelly ,

Do not worry your not alone! In a recent survey, I read 77% of Americans are unhappy. That’s over half the population in the U.S.  And most of their unhappiness could be traced back to their interactions. These people tend to stay home more, watch T.V. and have less social interaction.

And if you begin to look at what you watch on T. V. or what music you listen to, you will begin to see a correlation in your life. Are you listening to sad music, or is it inspiring? Do you watch Television shows that depict death and violence, or do you find shows that up lift you and educate you? Either way, your emotions are being effected by what you take in.

Try this for 1 week…. Notice the television shows you watch, the music you listen to? Do you know what is being said in the words and lyrics? (Listen you may just be surprised) Now gain awareness about what your watching and listening to. Look at your life…. How does it look similar to the words of the song or the shows that you watch?

I remember when I first had this awareness. I was watching what I believed to be a very harmless sitcom. But later, I realized the sitcom depicted a couple always at odds. The show was centered on the theme “disharmony” but disguised in a blanket of humor.

I began to ask myself how does this show make me feel about the people in my life? The show depicted men as lazy, selfish, and annoying. And women as angry, and upset, all the time! I realized one thing in that moment, there is a reason they call it Television  “PROGRAMING”.  I was being programed, and it was affecting my brain.

Today think  to  yourself"Everything always works out for me, I am Happy"!

 Your brain is a sensitive computer.  Everyday your brain processes and downloads data . So you have to make sure you fill yourself with good things.

One way to do this is to write positive quotes and post them by your bed or bathroom mirror. Another might be to pick a really soft playing music you like, and keep it on in the background of your home. (Classical, Enya, New Age are just a few examples)

Another great way to up your mood and improve your happiness is to get involved in others lives. For some this may look like volunteering, for others it might be to join a social group you have an interest in. Maybe it’s inviting some one new out for a quick lunch. What ever you choose the goal here is to have social interaction.

Socially active people are happier in their lives, than those that are not.

Sometimes it is easier to go home after a long day of work and retreat to solitude. But if you’re ready to try something new, then make a lunch date or go to a social event at least every two weeks.

Kelly, I am sure you are one lovely lady and there are people that feel just like you that would love to get out every now and then. As with in all my post, I try to link my information to a helpful resource that might interest the reader:

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Sincerely,
Ask Patricia